Emotional Intelligence!!!!

 Deploying Emotional Intelligence in Interpersonal Relationship:

The level of our job satisfaction on daily bases is directly dependent on how our various professional interactions helped us to achieve our objectives. These interactions may be with juniors, with colleagues in the same department or other departments & of course with the Boss. Most of these interactions though might be objectively initiated for whatever profiles that one is managing, the progress of any interaction & its end results may not necessarily follow the expected route, 

Why? Because, 

1) We are working with our set of experience, intelligence, understanding, expectations & perception.

2) While on the other hand the person we are interacting with may have their own set of these very aspects.

3) In most cases, initiation flows or flies if the concerns are mutually agreeable, while data, details & presentation of the proposals matters, what matters most is how well we have understood the person to whom we are going to discuss our scheme, ideas.

Albert Einstein spent 10 good years to simplify his theory of relativity, so that a paper can be produced that will be understood & accepted. As he knew the level of intelligence of the forum that was going to approve his research on the subject.

We claim that we know everyone working with us, understand them & mostly we & they flow with each other irrespectively, but if one may dig deeper, they may realize that it has not been an effective way. And that our vivid memory of some experiences from people around us that we keep using is actually a very random understanding about them, & that may be the reason why the expected & desired results are not achieved.

Hence it is always worth collating all our understanding about the people with whom we interact on daily bases, have it written down & read it at least once before going for any conversation with them. 

Let us see some General Questions that we can ask: (Put the name of the individual whom you are expecting to understand their level of your interpersonal relationship with them, answer these questions in YES or NO)

1) Most of these analyses can be narrowed down to this very first question, do they sincerely like you & appreciate your efforts & inputs? A very clear Yes or No may now lay the foundation for the rest of the answers.

2) Is their work dedication commendable?

3) Are they hardworking & committed?

4) Do they discuss subject matters objectively?

5) Are they focused on overall well being of Organizational growth?
6) Do they encourage & motivate their pears to do good & better?

7) Have they been able to grow with their own set of knowledge & career?

8) Are they able to remain unbiased & emotionally balanced when handling such issues?

Subject Specific Questions that we can consider:

1) Is the subject matter that you want to discuss going to affect them directly, adversely?

2) Is the subject matter that you want to discuss going to bring more work load or highlight their department negatively?

3) Is the subject matter that you want to discuss going to bring any direct or indirect benefits for them?

4) Do they have the experience, understanding  & professional acumen on the subject that you want to discuss?

5) Do they have repo & position to strongly uphold the suggestion or idea & elaborate it to others in the team? 

6) Do you have a clear understanding on their stand from past experience that, late on they will remain in support no matter what & no leave you in the middle of nowhere after acknowledging the suggestion or idea?

These two categories of systematic questioning & trying to give answers to yourself may help to understand, what & how your follow through on any & every subject must be reviewed before presenting it with anyone.

The first categories may remain a very clear & fundamental understanding of every individual that is working with you, though these answers may be your individual perception about the one that it is being carried out, but then for you, it is our perception that matters & brings desired results.

It may also be experienced along the line that some times individuals think, act & behave in an unpredictable manner, but if the above mentioned methodology or even an improvised version on your own is carried out, then no one may remain entirely unpredictable.

We have been taught & trained to work with our understanding about individuals that we over a period of time may have developed in our mind & may never get as close as these unless we have written them down & sincerely evaluated the perception. Plans, projects & ideas are all built or destroyed at their first stage, conceptualization is key to it but to define it from the standpoint of those who will understand & accept is a must.