Being Good, an addiction to "People Pleasing Attitude"!
Everybody is good in their own ways, while some are able to see & understand it irrespectively, no matter what some are unable to realize this very fact that everybody is basically a good individual.
Practically the inherent goodness of everyone will still be judged & evaluated based on how they fulfill the expectations of others around them & given this fact alone, we grow up keeping ourselves objectively working towards making everyone see, feel & understand that we are a good person.
Eventually it becomes our character & that we keep walking on this very path moving ahead making sure that we remain good & appear good to everyone that we meet & interact with.
So what happens along the line?
When we are in quest to remain good to others, we compromise on many other aspects of our own well being. Not realizing that just to remain that good person for others, at times we may have to hide things, we may have to refrain from speaking our truth, we may have to let go our intuition, we may have to keep quiet, we may have to ignore the tantrums, we may have to swallow some insults & so on.
All these are punishments we end up giving to ourselves, just because we care for how others must see us more than how we make ourselves feel in doing so, we consistently think & act to make sure that if not everyone then at least most of them must see that we are being good.
What happens when we are done with that gratification filled projection of making it look ourselves good? There are two aspects here, either we are pretending or we are genuinely being good, nevertheless behind our back we are still going to get judged, we may even get laughed about, we may get ridiculed, we may get criticized, or mostly we may even appear fake to them. They will allow us to play our act of being good & get what they want.
Psychologically, what is good for one may not be necessarily good for the other, its our own set of perceptions that we keep running with it over & over again, & turning it into an character that is otherwise known as "People Pleasing Attitude"
All of the actions that are carried out by anyone who is addicted to this very passion of "People Pleasing Attitude", will have an character that will be self sabotaging, they remain busy running after the illusion that projecting being good will earn them more appreciations & applauds. But within themselves they remain deprived of self care & love that may always leave them empty & unsatisfied.
Instead focus on being right for yourself, irrespectively you are going to get judged, so then why to bother about pretending to be good, do the right thing, eventually the genuine one will see it as good & ingenuity in them may still no be able to see that good in you, and by being aware with it, at least you won't be doing wrong to yourself. Try to remain just towards those who you have already identified & are running with this self sabotaging addiction of "People Pleasing Attitude", you have realized & are trying to remain sincere to yourself, they too will some day realize & arrive there.
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