Human beings are more complex in the nature than they seems to be with their biological structure. The basic nature is seeking to be loved. But given the conditioning we mostly seek half understood love, that is attention, appreciation, acknowledgement, applauds and so on. Our every action is derived out of seeking these love, we want to be loved as we are with what we do and that which we cannot do.
We seek fatherly love whereby we don't expect someone to correct us before hand, but yet expect that he should keep watching our back. We seek motherly love whereby we don't want to be reminded on anything that we may have taken it for granted, yet expect that she should be around us taking care for our every needs.
We seek love of siblings, whereby we see a friend in whom we can confine and can share all of our secrets without fear of being betrayed.
And than we seek love from our spouse. This is very different from the love that we seek from our blood relatives.
Along the line as we grow up, ego in us too keeps growing at its own pace and given the circumstances the same ego in either of our blood relatives ends up blocking the flow of that love what we had been seeking and living for. As a result all these unfulfilled love has to be fulfilled from our spouse. As a man we expect our wife to take care of us like how our mom did, we expect our wife to watch our back the way our dad did and we expect our wife to be a friend in whom we can confine.
As a women, she expects her husband to understand her the way her mom did, she expects her husband to treat her like a princess as her dad did and she expects her husband to support her the way her brother did.
So all these wandering is in seeking love alone, which remains misinterpreted as long as the ego succeeds in keeping the wisdom under check.
But as one may start realizing that while seeking love as been the way of life, without giving as much love it cannot complete the cycle.
We then understand that giving love is equally important as much it is as seeking.
And we start giving love unconditionally, that is irrespective of the fact that to whomsoever we are giving this love, we do not know if they need it or not, we do not know if they may be able to understand or not, we do not know if they may be able to give it back to us or share it further. As and when we feel that we are filled with overflowing love, we give it away.
We give love to ourselves by paying gratitude toward the opportunity we have in sharing this love. We remain respectful and humble in our talks. We offer guidance and solutions without judging.
We give peace to those who are finding difficult to bring back their pieces. We continue to live in love and in reflection of a Father, mother, sibling and become the love that can end seeking of love for everyone around us.
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