Look Beyond

 Look Beyond

During all of our interactions with various individuals at work or in family & friend circles, we must have trained ourselves to look into the actions & reactions of everyone with our own idea & identity that we may have formed about everyone of them. And mostly our reactions will follow our last experience or impression that we have had from these individuals.

This in a long run leaves no room for observation, corrections & upgrades in our own perceptions about others & unfortunately that goes for us as well, people around us will treat us from all those experiences that we have helped them to have with us.

But in reality, any action from anyone is most likely to remain circumstantial, it can be a totally different kind of situation that they must be going through & hence their actions may also remain unfamiliar to us. Yet most of the time we may end up responding to them or reacting from our past experience with them.

It takes a lot of conviction & confidence within oneself to put aside the rational reasoning & try to look beyond the layers of those circumstantial actions, not to be misunderstood being an empath here, that is to feel what they are feeling to understand it better & why they are feeling that very way, no. Neither it entails to project a compassionate approach as that may lead to taking an action from the view of pain point.

But rather listening, understanding & reasoning with open mindedness as if we are meeting the person for the first time.

Such an approach may allow to create space within ourselves to think & act together, we may be clearly able to see the cause & effect phenomena playing its role, we can even identify if the person himself is thinking & action out of their own perception given their experiences or are really trying to be natural with the given circumstances.

We cannot expect someone who has lived in scarcity of resources to reason in the same way with one who has lived in abundance, yet we can easily understand that their reactions if they both get stuck in a traffic hold up may be the same. Circumstantial!

Likewise whenever we are trying to initiate any conversation with anyone, we can remain unaffected by their tone, aggression, body language & even intimidation in some cases, and rather try to pay attention on either of these ​attributes that might be on display.

Focus on understanding first before reasons & concluding can be the next step. Allowing them to complete their explanations or expressions with whatever energies they are putting into it can simultaneously allow us to analyze the given circumstantial reasons backed by the past experiences. At the end of all we may peacefully arrive at some options to share & discuss that may not only help resolve the issue but will also make it just & fair, while we had not allow the past experience to overshadow our understanding & reasoning the results of our actions may always bring satisfaction to everyone around!

Worth trying, Look beyond & you will look further.