Unflinching Observer - The most Celebrated One!

 Unflinching Observer - The Most Celebrated One!

Let it be & you will flourish in all the quarters.

Everyone's life revolves around their respective "Circle of Influence". 

The better we understand things that we can control & things that we cannot control, the more we become Celebrated Ones!

To live & lead a life that is peaceful within & outside, there are some basic facts that we have to constantly keep reminding ourselves. 

Just like how passionately we train & tone our body physically, we have to equally consider keeping our mind, heart & internal health in shape.

A lot has been written & explained about how our personality or image varies amongst our family members, friends & colleagues. All of them may have had different sets of experiences from us & even if most of them may eventual know & understand who we are, how we think & act, there won't be even one single person who can claim to know about us more than ourselves, Moreso some reasoning & actions are always going to remain circumstantial & hence everyone is going to be unpredictable at some point in time.

In summary, everyone around us knows what we have to offer, what we can do & what we cannot do or will not do, now based on these basic understanding about us, they know what to expect & what not to, it's very simple.

Our skills, intentions, abilities, experience, commitment & so on along with our inabilities & limitations, are some of our characteristics that are all known & understood by everyone around us. So no matter how hard someone may be trying to maintain their mask, actions & results are still going to reveal it all.

So now the question arises, then why do we have to constantly remain in battles with efforts to change their perceptions about us, because no matter how hard one may try, everyone is going to act from their point of view & interest.

It is this constant striving to be included & considered that brings about all the unwarranted chaos in our life.

There will not be a time when there won't be any concerns around us, we have to carefully weigh them & categorize them, the kind of concern that is directly affecting us & demands our intervention may have to be taken up no matter if we are ready for it or not, & for the rest of the concerns, that do not have any direct bearing on our well being & peace, may also demand equal amount of efforts so that we do not get into them.

So what can we do here? When should we act & when should we remain unaffected, unattached, unconcerned?

At any given point in time when one finds themselves in the midst of any situation, if it is possible, we must first try to take a pause, try not to become reactive, think, analyze & plan to act towards bringing about resolutions, that is only when the subject matter has direct implication on oneself, that is if the concern is within our circle of influence.

For example, if we notice two individuals fighting on the street, we do not stop to separate them & make them sit down to reconcile, everyone around us is learned & mature enough to pick their own battles, we do not have to play any moral role, unless it is directly affecting us.

Till then, observe everything without being carried away, without judging & without taking it upon yourselves, just observe. Easier said than done, but better to start practicing these with situations that are totally out of our circle of influence & gradually one can get closer to the state whereby pause becomes our first reaction in anything & everything we do.

Once again no one in any active social & professional life is going to be left out, everyone have their place & role, as & when it is required to be played, they will be called upon, imagine a movie here, they are filled with so many different actors & everyone has their own on screen time, more or less, but without everyone giving their own time into it the movie may not get the essence of its message.

Let us pick some common scenarios in everyday life that we can turn them into an opportunity to become that Observer: (Methodology that can be considered only if we have the courage to put aside our phones)

1) Commuting to office & back home, just see the fellow passengers, don't interact or judge, watch the billboards passing by, check the make of the car moving in front, check the queue at the eatery & so on, just keep watching things without being attentive, attached or going deeper in the subject matter, as this happens to be best way to let the things be, none of the things we see are going to pull us in or we are going to get to do something about it, all of it are out of the circle of our influence. We learn to become an observer.

2) Neighbors & the neighboring desk, do not hesitate to greet them, & then try to hold on with the urge to look into their business, just notice everything about them & their activities or actions, but do not push it hard upon yourself to get to the another level of thoughts or assumptions, like us, they too are thinking & acting with what they can & must. We learn to let it be.

3) Friends & team members, hold them close to your heart, but then allow them to be themselves, let them be comfortable around you to share their view & opinions, allow them to do the most talking, let them know that no matter what you will still support them in the right way with your actions & you are not there to judge them. Let them decide when to include you & involve you, because we all have times in number may have experienced it that unsolicited advice does not bring about any usefulness to anyone, rather it may trigger some new & unwarranted concerns, hence maintain the absolute state till then be that observer, let it be & we will learn that we are celebrated!