Personal Evolution

 Personal Evolution 

An inevitable realization to contemplate upon, all that has been conceptualized about the evolution theory, right from the formation of the universe, our solar system & Earth itself, the species that have choose to adapt to the ever changing environment & given circumstances around them have survived & developed over billions of years, while those who haven't been able to accept & adapt the need to change themselves & rather would go all out to fight it have been the ones that had to perish.

In today's times, the same goes for the humans, while they remain busy with their individual & psychological battles at different levels, the ones who are able to adapt to ever changing environments & circumstances may evolve in every quarter.  

We can hereby categories Personal Evolution in three different levels:

A) Ability to carry out introspection & self evaluation

B) Ability to accept the 'As is'

C) Ability to make every necessary changes in our own perceptions & put them into actions

Personal Evolution Level One : Ability to carry out introspection & self evaluation

Every individual is born & brought up in different environments, that is even if two kids are brought up by the same parents they are most likely to grow up having different understanding about themselves & others. Hence the love they must have received, the care they must have been given, the understanding they must have been shown, the emotional states that they must have to experienced by seeing, hearing & learning from the people around, the education they may have gotten, the friends they may have had, & eventually how they must have been used & put to use while growing up, these are all different kinds of experiences that must have played significant role in shaping up ones thinking, reasoning & acting as grown ups. 

So with as many given inputs that are going to remain responsible in shaping up a human perspective, we can understand how & why everyone is so unique. 

Here if we believe that we are capable of changing someone's perspective merely by telling them or explaining them about something, then we are undermining all above & many other given contributors that the person may have gone through to form, believe & live with their present day perspectives.

Moreso no one can teach wisdom to another, if someone ever arrives at an realization that they need to learn or unlearn something it is only then another can share their own experience & understanding about the subject matter, which will have to be taken & worked upon to reform their own understanding & perspectives. And such probabilities are very rare.

So it is only through good & bad experiences one can get influenced or mandated enough to review their own understanding & perspectives, which brings us to the first level of introspection & self evaluation.

It takes courage to be able to believe that knowingly or unknowingly one has made mistakes & above it the most difficult process is to analyze our own actions & arrive at the conclusion that yes it wasn't necessary & right thing to do, or at least a different approach could have been possible.

It takes conviction & perseverance to imbibe a character of introspection, whereby when things go wrong, rather than blaming others or circumstances one may try to look within & take responsibilities of their own choices & actions that may have landed them into a state that isn't pleasant & could have been avoided, it may have hurt them or someone else & to do so one has to continuously keep a check on their set of perceptions, while consistently take note of changing environments & make amendments with their set of perspectives.

When someone is able to rely on self evaluation & is able to admit that yes they could have used the available resources & opportunity to get a different result they have arrived at a level whereby they will no longer find it necessary to blame circumstances or environment for the results they have earned from their own choices & actions.

Personal Evolution Level Two : Ability to Accept the 'As is'

​As far as the basic human nature is concerned, we like & appreciate that things around us may consistently keep changing in a good way only, whereas we also expect that as we are changing ourselves to adapt those positive & good changes, people around us must also acknowledge & welcome us changing ourselves for our own good. Contrarily we expect that everything around us as far as human emotions & behavior's are concerned they all must remain steady & constant, irrespectively. 

Unfortunately this hypothetical expectation is the major cause of all the miseries & adversities anyone may be experiencing at this point in time. 

We are so much blinded by the static nature & environment around us that we hardly notice the changes as long as they are not displacing us from our comfort zone. We do not notice the tree in our backyard how fast or slowly it is growing, we do not pay attention to how fast the heavy rain water finds it way out from our surrounding, we do not experience the aging of our house & furniture, because we are so used to all these natural aging in our surrounding & so much immersed in our own journey to make our lives more & more comfortable that we ignore this very side of our oneself that is profoundly teaching us & showing us how blissful it is always to keep adapting to the ever changing nature & environment of our surroundings. This goes to say that we do know how to not get carried away with these very phenomena of ever changing reality, yet we get distracted with slightest of changes when it comes to human nature & behavior's of people around us. 

We live with this image of ideology, about how everyone else should be & shouldn't be, while judging everyone else with a moral compass for their doings & undoing's, that we keep ignoring the fact that each of their actions & inactions are ultimately derived from their own perspectives & they do have every right to make choices & decisions to keep going on with their own objectives & purpose they defined for themselves. As much as we too are doing the same, trying not to fit in with our choices & actions into images created about ourselves by everyone around us, they too are all the time & every time doing the same. Constantly changing to remain on the path of their own progress & objectives irrespectively like us.

Once we have been able to practice & perfect the art of self evaluation, it may become easy to start accepting the human natures of people around as it is without trying to imply on how we see or understand them. As we constantly strive to change ourselves to be better with our experiences, we have to accept the fact that everyone else is also doing the same for themselves, hence we too have to constantly keep changing our own perspective about everyone else as they are presented & not as how we perceive them to be.

We have to understand that everyone is exactly how they want to be & that has nothing to do with how we want them to be, cases are different when someone is making attempts to change themselves in order to keep themselves closer to the ideological image we might have created about them, provided they have the ability of that very basic first level of introspection & have arrived to a realization that yes how we see them & imagine them to be is actually better than how they are.

So in summary, as much as the natural world around us is ever changing & evolving on its own without bothering about how anyone is seeing them, we have to adapt to this very nature of the universe & apply them as is to every human being around us that we are interacting with. They all have to change, for their own good, accept it, take them all as they are, as they do & undo, as they act & behave, none of their actions are going to change our own life's progress & journey unless we have made ourselves dependent on them entirely.

Accept & adapt to human beings, their nature as we have always accepted & adapted to sun, rain & rainbows, with this profound understanding that all what we can do when the Sun is shining is to either put a sunshade or take a Sun bath, when it is raining all that what we can do is to take an umbrella & continue our journey or take shelter, when the rainbow appears, take a selfie & post or continue with what we were doing before it appeared.

Change ourselves & move on, as much as we cannot reduce the intensity to Sun shining, pouring of the rain or the direction of a rainbow, we cannot influence the actions, inactions, doing & undoing of any other human being.

​This evolution of adapting people's behavior's as is, may not only change our interpersonal relationships with people around, if practiced religiously then can also pave a way on to a spiritual journey.

Personal Evolution Level Three : Ability to make every necessary changes in our own perceptions & put them into actions

It might not be easy to embark on the journey of self evaluation, as it will keep demanding the need to adjust & re-adjust every bit of our own understanding, beliefs, learnings & experiences, then after the most difficult task may remain to accept & adapt to the given situations, nature & behavior's of people around us. Moreso because when one is sincere & straight forward with their words & actions, whatever actions they draw may have the same intensity of emotions right from the bottom of their heart, so when these sincere intentions are overlooked & ignored, it might rage a war within to change the perceptions of given situation or individuals. So here even if someone is consciously making consistent efforts to adapt & accept the people around them as they are, the demand to keep changing their image more than often will remain very difficult, complicated & challenging in every manner.

When there are enough examples & experiences that are giving us evidences & proof to us about the need for us to change our perception about something or someone, it poise a very intrusive challenge as the mind is giving all the reasons to change the perspective while the heart isn't ready to let go the ideological image that is has created about something or someone that was soothing for long. So here even if we know what it is & how it is, most of the times we are unable to accept it as is & change our perspectives over & over again. That is when we know that with a given experience we are not going to get any better results in doing the same thing in the same way, we many a times find it difficult to keep ourselves from the change & upgrade that is being demanded at that point in time. We are unable to draw that action to ensure a change of perspective was realized & adapted, or maybe we may try it once or twice & then go back to the older ways, as that was giving us a more soothing & comforting state & experience. 

So it becomes a very critical task to sustain the practice of self evaluation combined with adaptability of as it & continue to keep repeating the first & second levels of evolution to actually change our life & DNA, thereby become an impactful & profound individual depending only on self & evolving for self with self efforts to every given situation & surroundings without getting carried away with ever changing nature of people, their actions & behavior's.

Eventually this may lead to self realization and make the life more meaningful to oneself & all those who are able to see the level of peace & wisdom one is able to live with & express it all with their actions.

Don't say a word, instead do it irrespectively, as you have every right to do all that is necessary for you to evolve, as long as you are able to rely on self evaluation, bad experiences will bring necessary lessons and ability to change & adapt as & when needed will bring wisdom.

Evolving to become better in every quarter of life is the ultimate purpose of life & leading through examples set by our unflinching efforts to practice the same with our actions is how we leave our footprints in our human experience & history. One can only be remembered with what they have achieved in their life through their actions & when those experiences are put in words they go on to become human evolution guides on its own.