Tell them Once!

 Tell them Once!

It is obvious that every individual is gifted with a unique way of looking at things & analyzing them, it all goes on the overall development & treatment one has undergone in their life.

So when you see & understand certain things in a different way, feel proud about yourself, feel blessed, feel important that you were able to comprehend it earlier, and then take a deep breath.

Especially if that realization or understanding is about someone else or something else that is out of your circle of influence then do not hesitate to share it with whoever it may concern the most. They might be too busy with other tasks at hand, not looking in that direction, or are unable to comprehend the way you did it, so do tell them unapologetically. 

Why is it important to tell them?

A) The fact that there is always something more than what it seems to be, & hence it is always good to believe & accept that any additional information or a different view is as important as that of their own view & understanding.

B) The one who is in the middle of something might always get overwhelmed with what they are already handling, so there is no harm in taking that initiative as one of their well wishers to let them know what you see, feel & understand.

C) It is also possible that they might not be aware of such a situation or may have not experienced it before, while you have gone through it before or you may have seen someone close to you handling such a situation before, hence it is always good to go ahead & let them know.

D) You already know that the choices they are making or the decisions they are making are going to hurt them in the long run, if you too are going to get affected by their such choices & decisions in one or another ways, then it even becomes inevitable to tell them.

E) To an extent that even if you are sure that they are not ready to hear it out, ready to understand, not willing to get into the discussion, not arrived at the level of understanding of the urgency to act upon it, have other priorities, do not see any significance in investing their energies & time into the subject matter, not matter whatever might be their excuse, as long as you have seen it, felt it necessary & important, JUST TELL THEM.

BUT TELL THEM ONLY ONCE & never ever bother to remind them later!!!!!!

A) Everyone is well aware of what they are doing & what they want to do.

B) They understand & know their priorities more than us.

C) By telling them ONCE we have done our duty, be it professional or personal.

D) If need be they will either let us know to remind them later or will get back to us when they want on the subject matter.

E) Do not remain invested in what their actions would be, or the result or outcome of their actions have been.

F) They have already realized, understood & learned where do you stand with them, so do not OVERDO anything to put them under any kind of pressure to think & act upon your set of perceptions about their own situation.

Everyone is entitled to earn their own experience by taking actions at a suitable time & in the choice of their direction, they have the needed wisdom at that point in time to act upon or consider to leave the situation for some another day, we are not accountable or responsible for their choices, decisions, actions or even inactions.

So NEVER take things too personally, even if you are sincere well wishers for them & want everything to be good & well for them, know that you cannot make choices for them, neither can you take & bear the consequences of their choices.

Be it your life partner, parent, sibling, kid, friend or professional colleague, senior or even your boss, TELL THEM ONCE & then support them in every possible way whenever & whatever they are doing about it.

BUT NEVER BE THAT SPOILER TO REMIND THEM OR TELL THEM AGAIN!!!!!