Generation Z & Modern day Arjuna, Dodging - The Ultimate Victory!

 Generation Z & Modern day Arjuna

Dodging - The Ultimate Victory!

The socio-economic fabric of present times & world around is becoming more dynamic in nature, whereby it makes the life more interesting while one is able to embrace the perceptional evolution, that is every another minute one must be ready to drop their understanding & perception about an aspect they had before a minute & cherish the newer version of it.

Easier said than done, right?

Let us try to understand what it actually looks like to have a perception based on our consciences?

Those how have been raised with morality & virtues imbibed on their upbringing & may have formed basics of their thinking, reasoning & acting, may find it very normal to think & act straight, they are able to easily pick the right side without getting lured for the immediate advantages in the given situation.

The past experiences of being sincere & truthful to self & everyone around may have earned the needed satisfaction & that alone remains the most significant motivation to continue living a life that is transparent & predictable.

Though at times one may not be able to enjoy the moment, as the results may keep varying from being more than a perfect outcome to an obviously biased narrative.

So in summary, when one has been trained since childhood, to think good, be reasonably compassionate & act with conscience, they become that bacon of self realized being that no matter what may continue to remain sincere & truthful irrespective of whatsoever may be the outcome.

And the outcome here keeps getting different & bitter as the present state of consciousness of the world around hasn't been practically conceptualized to be real. One thinks & believes that the world is working & growing as how they are leading & living their own lives, but actually it isn't, the real world is operating at a very different level of self realization when compared to the kids that have been brought up with ethical & moral values.

Unfortunately the real world is always going to remain at a different level of its conscious evolution & hence it becomes important for the kids of Generation Z to learn & practice Dodging that may actually help them to become focused a modern day Arjuna & remain that Straightforward individual.

Being an straightforward individual the immediate & first response to any situation or question is always the last & the most clear yet brutal at the same point in time & that is where things get a bit different & out of the context.

Even if the intention was very pure & right, the brutality involved in being to the point & straight takes away the value of sincerity, it does not give the next person reason to like you & appreciate you, that is even if you might be the most deserving & truthful, you are not going to get the needed results.

Hence it becomes important & rather inevitable to make sure to harness the skills to respond in a way that gets one liked & gets them out of the situation at that point in time.

Dodging, Mastering the Art with Passion

(Please be careful, the idea is not to lie or manipulate, but rather make sure that even with the just & right intention, with their response one do not disrupt the balance, & by deploying window filled actions without being self centered & selfish, they can still remain true to themselves, & yet are able to maintain very critical balance around them)

A) Being a Straightforward Person, For someone who has trained & lived a life with being a straightforward person may have to take a pause every time before giving away any answer or response. Whenever being questioned for anything, they have to carefully craft a response that is dodging & at the same point in time peaceful in nature.

For example if someone asks you how is the weather today?, then the immediate response should be, it's nice but let me check the finer details about it & how it could get in a couple of hours & get back to you.

B) Answer with a affirmative question, Always remain alert & on your toes to make sure that you have to dodge the answer or a response & instead leave it for the next person to take the lead with an answer to their question that is another question.

For example, if someone asks you how the weather is today, then the response here could be, wow what a different thought, what do you feel about it. So this not only gave an affirmative sense to their initiations, your opinion about how you see & feel the weather may actually haven't made any difference to his own understanding & feeling about the weather then, so why unnecessarily respond with an conflicting response when we can allow him to lead the conversation on the subject matter that he has already concluded it & is just expecting us to insist on them to share with us.

Here we crafted a response with an answer that was a question for them that was again of their choice & interest, we not only dodged the question but we instead even gave them the room to initiate the subject conversation that they started.

C) Listen first & reason later, it is very important to listen with total attention, try to create an imaginary situation as per the narration of the narrator & try to be present there inside the episode as if it is being played right there in front of you & you are observing it by yourself, the intensity of the dialogues being exchanged between the parties, the reactions of everyone involved & one may see the reasons behind everyone's actions & reactions that will come out very clear to you and as you make this kind of efforts to experience the entire episode by yourself, one you will keep yourself away from interrupting the narrator, two you won't pass any premature judgment without getting into the details & will be actually able to respond accurately on the subject matter, that will make your response unbiased & genuine. Meanwhile you can also take a pause & try to evaluate your own position with whatever response comes to your mind & let them know that you will think about it & get back to them after a while, or you can ask them what do they expect you to say or do in the subject, what are their expectations on it.

As sometimes the narrator might only need a listening ear & you might be a right choice as an unflinching observer who is neither going to jump into the subject matter with any judgements nor are you going to take sides.

Be a good listener no matter whosoever is talking to you & at the same point in time do not absorb energies or become compassionate if you weren't involved in the subject matter.

So here learn to Dodge giving any response, answer or even a reaction. Yes, most of the time it's not your battle hence do not fight it for someone else.

D) Elders & Seniors, Generation Z is so blessed with tons of information that most of the times even before anyone around them may begin any conversation about any subject, they have already known about it or it may take minutes if not seconds to find out finer details about the subject matter, but yet the elders may want to share their wisdom on the subject matter, seniors may want to speak their minds on it, so once again allow them to finish, their intentions will be always good for you, never interrupt them nor try to correct them or even try to add any more information to what they may have acquired, unless & until they are seeking it desperately.

Leave your facial expressions as if you are amazed about what is being shared by them, a very affirmative mode that may loudly communicate to them that you are feeling very glad & fortunate for them investing their time & energies in your life & growth.

Dodge any responses in over excitement even if you know the subject matter more then them & if at all you are expecting the conversations to get extended as it is an interesting subject, learn if they are really willing to hear from you or not, take a pause & wait for them to give you that room & opportunity to speak up, if not than leave it & if yes then be careful that you only add more information & value to what they have already mentioned do not give any contradictory information on the subject.

E) Circle of Influence, know that at any given point in time no one is under any obligation to prove themselves smarter to the rest of them in the room, hence always be cautious about indulging in group discussions, if the subject matter is within your circle of influence than for sure sharpen your saw with open mindedness, that while laying down your guard when presenting your perception you may likely get confronted with another set of perception, if you think you are in mood & do have the maturity to handle it then only jump into the group discussion. Or else sit down watch them all talk, discuss, understand, analyze the subject within yourself & correct yourself & improve your perception while talking to yourself, most importantly no matter what do not start judging any of them when they are helping you with their perception and you are contemplating upon them all without their knowledge. And this goes to say that no matter what keep Dodging any & every such group discussions in person or online that are totally out of your Circle of Influence.

F) Yes, must be always the first response, No matter whatever may be the subject matter, if you are asked any question by someone, beginning with a response that is in line with what they want to listen or hear will actually create more room for them to later hear you out when you may actually want to share a different perspective. Remain professional in your interactions everywhere. Have a clear distinction between what is being said, what is being discussed, what is being brainstormed & what is being instructed, do not have any confusions in picking the message correctly. Here when a response begins with an affirmation, it will now tone down the open up further discussion. Nevertheless when someone might say yes please let me have your view, carefully weigh it before jumping into your presentation, if you have a problem of generating a different view all the time, the impression you may have given might actually take away the edge you may need to present a genuine yet different & the difficult to accept perception. Dodge every conversation with a short & sweet YES.

G) Un-educated, Qualified & Learned, Whenever you are interacting with someone, try to find out & understand the level of Ego they might have, mostly an learned will know themselves better & will be aware of what all they do not know, hence might have the lowest level of ego, whereas an qualified individual might be thriving in their field & may have a good level of ego, but the un-educated one might have the highest level of ego as that is the only way, they understand that they can define their self worth, be very cautious about how you step on their egos, it might bring out reactions that you may not want to handle it, hence try to dodge any discussion, arguments that may lead to stepping on their egos. And if you have already done it once, always remember it for the rest of your life & act accordingly.

H) If your answer is no, better remain quiet, It is very much possible that despite of all your efforts to remain available & ready to cooperate at times you may have your reasons to say no, & that will hurt them badly, every NO will be taken personally, take it or leave it, hence make sure that you if any of your discussions & dealing are heading towards an terminal end whereby you can clearly see that it will result into calling it off, it is better you try your level best to maneuver the discussion to arrive at some middle ground but if at the end you are still left with no other option than to say no, better leave it unanswered than to nail a NO. Dodge the no's as many times as possible. 

I) Professional boundaries, Work is worship, all the talks we do with God when being in a place of worship is within, we go there with a purpose & soon leave from there, likewise your work place must be visited only with a purpose of delivering what you have been asked to, collect your pay cheque & get out of there to enjoy the life elsewhere. Do not disclose any of your personal information's with either of your colleagues at the workplace, believe it or not you might take your work place as a place of worship & may be working with utmost sincerity & dedication, but not everyone around you is thinking & acting accordingly for some it might be the only place where they can do & undo to become relevant & they won't mind turning the place into a battlefield, & in such case either of your personal information, might become your weakness that they might love to play with in order to win their battle. Dodge mixing up with workplace colleagues more than for the give & take of professional assignments.

J) No Second Chance, There are a lots of theories about giving someone second chance, yes someone who may have ignorantly crossed some boundaries can be considered, if they are willing to accept & apologize with changed behavior, but for those whom you may have to called upon & explain that they have crossed their boundaries may actually NEVER change, as they already knew what they were doing & yet took the chance & risk, hereafter giving them the second chance might not be actually for them to change or prove themselves otherwise but instead it might be for your own comfort & convenience, & that sums it up all, you might NEVER get any changed behavior or result but a certain betrayal, Dodge the need & greed of proving yourself to be kind & considerate by giving anyone a second chance, rather live a life with a firm mind & heart that everyone around may see & know that once they mess up, they have lost you forever.

K) Apologize with actions & move on, No one is mistake proof, in life one is meant to make many mistakes, some might be hurtful to others while some might bring about life changing experiences. Be humble enough to own up to mistakes, show maturity and make necessary corrections in your perception & position, not to prove it for anyone, but for your own good & betterment. Dodge the childishness of clinging on to your immature self that made a mistake, the best part of admitting that you have made a mistake is that it immediately opens up the next door, letting you to be free from any possible guilt trips & remorseful reactions of beating up yourself over & over again.

L) Friends for lifetime, Some individuals in our life are going to stay no matter whatever the circumstances may surround them or us, and we call them friends for lifetime. But that might be possible only if one has learned to mind their own business, know your friends only as much as they are comfortable sharing about, likewise let them know about you as much as they are interested & excited to learn & cherish. Beyond that do not force, do not strive, good morning & good night messages are blessings, meet them at restaurants or malls, spend some good time cracking jokes & pulling lets while recalling childhood memories. Then after part your ways to continue doing what is more important for you & let them do the same for themselves, Dodge the need to interfere in their personal or professional life, a true friend is blessing & be grateful for it & make sure that you do not ruin the blessings by trying to intervene in their Karma. 

M) Value your own values, Be very particular about your self worth, not everyone will be able to see the skills & attributes that you carry & display. One because they are themselves busy finding their own values in others, two they are so self centered that they hardly get out of their own head to invest time & resources to evaluate anyone around them. So practically 9 individuals out of 10 that one may interact with, won't be interested to do any introspection & evaluation to rate & value someone else as being better & nicer then themselves, it may remain a self deceiving & sabotage for expecting someone else to value you. Hence Dodge the expectation to be valued by anyone, & even if someone does that once, it might not remain the same forever, as mostly the value that they may have tried to show must have been for their need to utilize for themselves. Your value depends upon how much better you are today than you were yesterday.

N) Maintain distance & let the mask be on, Everyone including ourselves carry more than just one faces, evolved beings are in fact able to display different personalities at every different stages, they are different as colleagues, different as seniors, different as juniors, different as spouse, different as a parent, different as a friend, different as a neighbor, different as a community member, different as a co passenger & so on. So what this signifies is that everyone is allowed to be whoever they have decided to be, certainly they must have their own set of experiences & reasons to be so & not otherwise in that very situation & hence it must be not only accepted but even respected. Likewise be unapologetically yourself with whatever mask you want to put on, have the confidence that as much as you are not interested in pulling down anyone's masks, they too must not dare to do anything stupid with your choice of mask. And in order to save your mask & let them be with their own masks, maintain a distance from everyone, don't get so close that even if it wasn't intended you may see them without their mask or they may see you without your own mask. Understand it very well that once a mask is off, no matter what you & the other person will never like each other, be it your parent, partner, colleague or a friend. Dodge the urge to see the person behind that mask. 

O) There are no Truths, but only interpretations, The numbers of view, opinions & perception about any given situation are directly proportional to the number of human population on the planet, so practically everyone will have their own view for the same situation & everyone's view will be right in their own ways. Have open mindedness to embrace different perceptions then yours, you might be right but that does not necessarily make them wrong. The fact that nothing is permanent makes it even more crucial to imbibe an understanding of coexistence, whereby the theory of abundance is not only preached but practiced as well. Everyone's perception have roots deep inside their upbringing, environment, education & culture they have grown up & like them we too use the same resources to form our set of perception & hence none of them can ever be wrong in totality, there will always be reason for someone's action, & they will be valid for them. Dodge the perception of being right all the time, your truth & their truth might be different by weight of a grass strand.

P) No money lending & no cry, Money brings comfort, security & stability, hence everyone must work hard & learn how to keep improving with their own levels of comfort, security & stability. Landing someone that comfort, security & stability is a crime against yourself, one you are likely to lose the same for yourself, two if not you will lose the person to whom you have landed the money. Moreso by becoming the enabler you are actually intervening in the divine order, you are stealing the opportunity that was given to them to sit up, learn, work hard & make a fortune for themselves. While the resources you could have generated for yourself with your skill & zeal with that landed sum would have made you more positive & fulfilled then how you may actually feel when you end up losing the person as well as the sum. Dodge any request to play the role of an enabler, take them for a dinner, a picnic, buy them perfumes & chocolates, but don't lend them any money.

Q) Focus on the next step, the solution, At any given point in time everyone is handling some situation that they may have not seen coming or maybe they saw it coming but did not have enough time to prepare themselves to address it before the landfall. Hence it becomes very important to imbibe a character of looking towards solutions, what next. The reasons for what happened, why & how can be analyzed later, but at that point in time it becomes more important to focus with all of the available resources in overcoming the situation. This approach actually requires a lot of patience & maturity to let go then & there itself. 

For example a car hits your car from behind, first park the car on one side & check if no one is hurt inside your own car & then in the car as well who hit you from behind, then do the assessment of the damage for your car & their car as well, if the driver of the car is apologizing, accept it & move on, call your insurance agent & report the accident & process the repair & claims. 

There is no point in trying to find out whose fault it was & show any kind of muscle to the person who hit you from behind, just because for hitting another car from behind he is already at fault. It would be a sheer waste of time & energy.

Dodge to overreact with anything & instead remain calm & composed to focus on coming out of the situation with least damage or losses.

R) Evolution & growth are not optional, Everyone irrespective of their class & status are evolving. That is because as anyone engages in life to get better with their income, they also learn a lot of things that will shape & reshape their perceptions about the world around them. So the cousin you used to play pranks with before a decade or so when you are meeting them after 10 years, is a different person altogether & so are you for them. Likewise the brother whom you left in the house in the morning, may have studied 5 new & different lessons about various subjects from his class tutorials or you tube, in evening when you meet him again he isn't with the same set of knowledge & information that you had seen him with in morning & that goes for you as well.

Believe in the fact that everyone is evolving & growing at their own pace, some strive to grow while some are pushed to grow, but no one can ever remain at the same level of evolution forever.

Choose to evolve by choice rather than to get pushed, pick lessons, challenges & tasks that will help you upgrade your set of perceptions & makes you better equipped with knowledge & information that can shape your opportunities in coming days.

Dodge the belief that anyone is still the same, like you everyone is bound to grow.

S) Everyone has something to learn from, Nature is no. 1, Strive to be an observer of anything & everything, it might not become your first nature instantaneously but gradually with patience & practice one day you can arrive at a state whereby you find yourself watching everything like a Netflix show. Study the main characters playing around you, analyze their story, follow through & choices & decisions being made around the objectives & agenda. Be so keen that you can even find something new & exciting in a 2 year toddler. Everyone carries a unique universe within themselves & the actions & inactions are derived from their deep rooted wisdom of the life they have lived so far, in order to reason with them & understand why & how about their choices & decisions one may have to go back in time & live a parallel life with them & arrive on that very day to get proper realized, but since it is possible, just observe & evaluate with your set of perceptions & see how you can learn, upgrade & improvise your own present state.

Out of all Nature is the most significant teacher, imbibed with patience, commitment to survival with growth & consistent with fruits no matter how the environment may have deviated from its standards.

At least once a week, sit down & watch trees, plants, flowers, birds, animals, skies, sea, waves, clouds & rain, they talk without charging any fees. Dodge the perception that only qualified & learned can teach, for an unflinching learner even the least of things around them can give wisdom filled lessons on life.

T) Contemplating, The most reliable, trustworthy & truthful partner of your life, We live & experience it all within our brain & thoughts. 90% of our concerns are fears of the unknown & hence it becomes important to have the confidence to believe in yourself & the divine timing. One thing that any straightforward person may continue to experience in their lives is arriving at the milestone earlier than expected & before everyone has arrived. So by virtue of this very fact waiting with patience becomes an inevitable character that one may have to learn to imbibe in their personalities. And while you are waiting allow all the questions, assumptions & concerns to surface, do not bash them, they are fractions of probable future, then give time to each of that very question & thought to be responded with facts & reality around it, do not get biased with yourself, let the counter argument within yourself take a dig at your own perception, let is win & give your reasons why that what you were assuming & thinking was not rational. The practice will help one become a big time self talker, a chess master playing from both sides & making moves judiciously for both the teams. Dodge the need to share & discuss your view & perceptions with anyone other than yourself.

U) Strive to earn Peace, material success & fame will follow, The idea of the entire article is revolving around this very aspect of life, Peace. Do anything & everything that brings about the most needed peace for yourself & everyone around & that alone will lead ways to every other things in life. Make your list of Don'ts so long & practice it so religiously that all of your thoughts, actions & reasoning reflect volumes of peace in them. And the most important thing to understand here is that avoiding accountabilities, responsibilities, fleeing from actions isn't peace, No. Contrary, taking time to address the issues & concerns with offering win-win solutions is what will always bring about the more desirable results & needed peace. Yes this does not stop from dodging & avoiding as many conflicts & confrontations, but all of it must be to make sure that long lasting peace prevails all around. When having the options between, fame, material success & peace, jump on to peace without giving a second thought, and then use the peace to think through the strategies that will attract the material success & fame in a peaceful manner. Or if you believe in divine intervention, cling on to the peace all the times & rest of them will follow with wisdom. Dodge the quest to run after anything that is not bringing about peace in every sphere of life.

W) Reward of freedom for & from loved ones, Human beings are love beings, that like to be loved & love back. But what goes in this very natural aspect of our being is that we start gauging the love we get in the context of the love we give. We need to relearn the entire chapter of love & the bottom line is that every individual will have their own love signature, the way one will love will be different than the other & that it can never be the same, so as far as some aspect of love is being exchanged it should be appreciated & cherished. How & how much we love back is our choice & cannot be a trade off. Imbibe giving freedom in Love, whoever you love must be set free, let them explore & experience the world they have created around themselves, & you try to feel their love & experience their joy with whatever they are able to achieve & do with that freedom. Love their freedom as much as you love yours, love their dreams, expectations & aspirations as much as you love yours. And most importantly love them more, those who love you & the experience will be divine. Learn how they are able to fight with all the odds around them to put a smile on your face, understand how are they able to make those sacrifices to fulfill your expectations, try to think like them for yourself & that alone will lead you to the realization how it all comes naturally to them when their love for us is so unconditional & yet intense.

Dodge the need to be loved back equally, set them free, let them love you in the way they know & can, while letting them experience & see how you will love them instead.

X) Embrace limitation & remain teachable, The beauty of being that unique & independent thinker is that one can open up doors to the avenue beyond imagination. And the statement also claims that everyone at any given point in time has limited knowledge & information & that they must be humble enough to admit it & realise that there is a lot yet to be learned & understood. For someone to learn & unlearn they must be teachable, by this it means that one must be able to teach themselves new things & aspects of life & at the same point in time they must be ready to be advised & corrected by elders & learned. Once anyone has come to terms with this very fact that their level of understanding & knowledge about the various aspects of the world around them is only as much as a drop in an ocean, they immediately become a seeker of a path that will continuously lead them to abundance, the seeker of knowledge & wisdom becomes a student that will learn & unlearn things at a pace that will help them to remain peaceful at the core of their nature, their level of enthusiasm & excitement will me unmatched. Dodge the ego that you know it all, instead be around people who have a different perception than yours, it will give better chances to change your own perception, learn & grow.

Y) Be loving, caring, nurturing & supportive for those whom you love, unconditionally, The purpose of life is to experience love, giving & receiving. And one of the most profound ways of showing love for those whom we love is to care about their expectations, make them feel valued, respected, wanted & comfortable in sharing their views, perceptions & understanding about various subjects with us. When someone is given care, their thoughts & ideas are getting nurtured, their needs & requirements are fulfilled then the love flows out of them is more of an gratitude filled love which is very genuine & pious in nature. Here one can share the same kind of love with their parents, siblings, friends & of course the life partner. A person who has learned the process of such a genuine way of loving from their family will grow up to become a very matured, caring & understanding individual. They must have earned many people in their life that may have experience the kind of personality they display by being such an caring & loving individual. They bring a level of peace in their being, that everyone around them will feel motivated, encouraged & delighted to continue being led by them. They are always having a listening ear, will always share a reasoning response & even if their perception might be totally opposite to the one they had been presented, their intension will always be prioritized toward peace & win win solutions. Dodge the idea that giving love & care isn't good if you aren't get the same from them, to be able to love and care for someone is a blessing that only few can have & being that with your parents & siblings.

Z) Level of success will be directly proportional to the numbers of battles dodged & avoided, This is the basics of todays time, avoid confrontation, dodge comparison, avoid competition, dodge conflicts, avoid brutal responses, dodge unwarranted aggression, avoid picking offense, dodge taking sides, avoid gossip, dodge negative talks, avoid oversharing, dodge complaining, avoid being stubborn, dodge unrealistic expectations, avoid anything & everything until & unless it becomes inevitable to act upon it.

Keep peace as your priority!

Then Arjuna was known with his skills on how many different kinds of targets he must have been able to take down with his arrows, hereafter the modern day Arjuna will be the one who will be able to dodge & avoid creating & trapping himself from various complications & continue to move forward with leaving the mark of peace behind.