Psychological Deficiencies

 Psychological Deficiencies

As one may remain open & considerate enough with their own understanding & view, it will be realized that not everyone around is capable of evaluating things & aspects of various complexities around with a fraction of future.

In other words, those who are living by the principle of making most of the present moment, they are so immune to not only the immediate losses but are totally devoid of the catastrophic impact of their choice in near or distant future.

Just like how color blindness works as a physical deficiency, greed to make the most out of the present moment, applies a blind fold on their reasoning, understanding & even admitting to the fact that there are probabilities beyond today & that it cannot be overlooked.

The given psychological deficiency is so deep rooted into their personality that they are totally immune to the surroundings, neither can they phantom the intentions of people around nor can they evaluate the actions of people around them, as much as they remain focused on what they are getting out of the given situation they are totally unavailable for anything & everything else.

Making them stand alone in their quest, whereby everyone around ceases to exist.

Here we cannot talk about empathy or compassion as their brain has no memory to understand, analyze or evaluate any kind of emotions in others. 

The only emotions that they can relate, understand & accept are their own, to be the only one that will be cherished, celebrated & appreciated for anything & everything.

So if you see them giving away their seat in a public transport to someone it isn't because they saw it that the other person is in more need of that seat, but rather they did so because they saw that someone is watching them & by giving away that their seat they will make an impression on the person who is watching them. Watch them again in any such act, it is derived to make an impression for themselves, in some cases they can even ask their spouse or sibling to get up & give away their seat to the other needy person, thereby they look good & if the spouse or sibling will no comply they will look bad & ugly, that is throwing the near & dear ones under the bus to make a kill!

Period.

Now here comes that Big Question, what to do?

Give it a different thought to the entire personality, far away from your own understanding, reality & upbringing, you may realize that there are equal probabilities of their psychological mutation. A neurolink that bridges reasoning & empathy is jumped to & is now connecting between reasoning & benefits, as the station to process empathy isn't built, installed or present in the system. So then how can you expect someone to process an emotion that needs empathy and it isn't available?

As time may pass, in coming years we may keep coming across more and more such individuals who are devoid of empathy, they are born normal but along the line as they are growing up the empathy quotient disappears, ceases to exist in them, all that they can feel is their own emotions and nothing else, appearing to be very abnormal to rest of them who have experienced empathy & lived around the principle, but for them being emotional only towards their own need, expectations & benefits is what is best they have known understood & realized & hence having any kind of empathy for anyone else is out of their context. And hence they cannot be blamed.

The only solution to such individuals around us, may be a colleague, a parent, spouse or even a sibling is to learn to keep our own emotions in check.

Those who are born & brought up to think, act & work with empathy & compassion may have to level up their own psychological state to stop investing their emotion into such individuals with empathy deficiency.

Be reasonable & just but at the same point in time understand & accept that no matter how many different colors you paint, someone who is color blind will not be able to see anything more than the different shades of black & white.

Your love, your care, your nurturing, your considerations, your sacrifices, your values, your virtues, your entire being is a rainbow with different colors & they are incompetent by choice & will to see it, understand it or realize it.

Do not waste your time & resources in trying to wait with any hope that someday they will see it all & come back & appreciate you.

Do not relate with them being emotional.

As much as they are part of the system & process, deal with them at the level of what & how things are to be done & concluded.

Keep your heart locked & safe.

Do not expect anything from them

Whatever you are doing, keep it as an obligation from your side that will never get reciprocated.

Try to remain as much as professional you can be

If possible to cut off the connections & end the communication better

If not, limit it to what is inevitable.

They thrive on their Ego & Pride make sure you have not become their supplies.

Do not rub their lies on their face, let them dwell in their lies & let them enjoy its karma.

Do not call out on their selfishness, they will not let it pass easily, with next opportunity they will strike with vengeance.

You do not call a blind a blind, you do not call a deaf a deaf person, then why to call a Narcissist a Narcissistic?

Do not get into any arguments, you may win if you are careful but before they will allow you to have the joy of winning they must have robbed you of your peace & self worth.

Do not correct them no matter what, let them be right all the time & take pride in their losses while they continue to be in the same cycles.

Make peace with your own routine & profile, while never try to be proactive to get into any kind of interactions with them, let them take the initiatives & then do only that needful.

No matter what you may achieve, try & earn or make, they will always have one or more things to criticize about your actions. Be prepared for that every time if you have no other options than to interact with them regularly.

They will always have a huge number of people that they will call their friends, because they will be breadcrumbing them to remain available as a friend when they need something from them. If you challenge them about the ill intentions of either of their so-called friends you will become their immediate enemy, do not call out on their friends, they are above you as they don't know them & that is a great achievement for them to manipulate them.

There is a high level of probability that even if you may have identified or not you must have been living & managing around with people with these psychological deficiency in them, while everyone must have been trying to work with their own set of tools, those who have already realized that these empathy blinded individuals are not meant to be dealt with empathy or compassion but only superficially, they have laid down many guidelines based on their own personal experiences & understanding of individuals with this deficiencies.

As much as it may remain a matter of further study & understanding, custom made solutions will have to be tried & perfected to remain grounded with empathy & compassion for those who are really able to see, understand & practice it.

All the very best!!!!