Personal Hand-Book of Do's & Don'ts

 Personal Hand-Book of Do's & Don'ts

In today's busy life, where personal aspirations & professional goals define the level of effort & hard work that one has to do, it becomes very critical & important to deploy emotional intelligence in your thinking, actions & reactions.

And that brings us to have certain characteristics built within ourselves so clearly & profoundly maintained that everyone around us is aware of those characteristics. At the same point in time one has to be so confident & clear about all that they cannot afford to do at all.

Of course this does not mean you become an open book, a certain degree of unpredictability may leave you at the center stage, but then there are certain attributes that must be out loudly communicated so as to remain focused on your personal aspirations & professional goals.

In order to arrive at the level of principled characteristics, one can draft some clear Do's & Don'ts for themselves, while you may have to go a step further to also draft some Do's & Don'ts for some of those individuals that you are interacting with on a daily basis.

This is important & can help you to maintain a very good cordial relationship with everyone & that in turn can help you remain invested in your own growth & peace.

Why do we need different sets of Do's & Don'ts for every individual, why must they not think, act & reason with us?

1) Acceptance of the fact is a MUST here that every individual at the core of their being is going to think, act & reason to the best of their personal interest.

2) People around nevertheless may think, act & reason with us only when what we are proposing is in line with their personal thinking, agenda & benefit.

3) To expect others to believe in us no matter how hard it may be for them to accept it & understand it could only lead to further complications & frustrations.

4) Knowingly or unknowingly people tend to develop a very flexible personality, that is charming, jolly good & all pleasant in the beginning & till we dig deeper & study them.

5) Every individual is majorly driven by their Don'ts, what this means is that everyone will be a different person altogether when they are facing their Don'ts, including ourselves.

6) Whatever may be the idea, options & propositions you may want to share, if the person who is going to give a listening ear is in the best of their mental stability then the probability of your reasoning to fly & get accepted increases & in order to attain that state there must be an very positive history of interactions with that very individual.

7) People are always going to be more vocal about what isn't right & good with everyone else that isn't allowing them to be at peace, little do they are willing to work upon themselves to make sure that their actions will not instigate any negative reactions from others around.

8) No it isn't a people pleasing attitude we are talking about, we are not going to become yes ministers, but instead become very mindful of what is not to be said, shared & expressed more than what is to be told & presented.

9) So the Do's list will be practically for oneself while that of Don'ts will be for literally every individual that you may have to interact, daily, weekly or at least bi-weekly, no need to  get into details with those whom you are interacting once in a while, as they need to know you exactly how you are without getting into any details.

10) Practice & keep updating the list by adding more Don'ts to the list so as to make sure that you maintain the most needed peace & progressive path in your personal as well as professional life.

DO's - Please let all your Do's be so clear & known to everyone unapologetically

A) Always maintain a good personal hygiene.

B) Be punctual in everything you plan & do.

C) Make sure you do what you say & say only what you will be able to do.

D) Your Yes must be evident & your NO must be genuine, don't remain confused in any of those aspects.

E) If there is something that you are not so sure about, make it clear that you will gather more information & get back.

F) Maintain a daily routine schedule, follow it religiously & let everyone around respect it.

G) Observe & listen more than you think & speak, the minute you are switching over to thinking about something that isn't important & necessary take a pause & do something significant to divert your mind & focus. Do this at least 10 times in a day & keep a count of it.

H) Listen to any genre of music that makes you feel good about yourself, take planned music breaks, in nature break, fresh natural air break, short brisk walk break, so that at that point in time one can remain in their own company without any other distractions.

I) Take your loved ones seriously, they are your uncontested assets of life, that will love you no matter what. Do pray for them everyday.

J) Maintain a grateful & thankful attitude, towards yourself for whatsoever you have been able to do & deal with & for others as well.

K) Cultivate the habit of reading or writing, in modern times watching something meaningful that will increase your knowledge & amaze you.

L) Have a hobby for something in particular that you can participate & practice it at least once in a week to continue getting better with it.

M) Be mindful of your circle of influence, remain focused on things & subject matters that you & your efforts can bring about an impact to it.

Don'ts - Make a list of these don'ts to be person specific, that is for every individual you are interacting with must have a separate list for each one of them, while a common Don't list can be as follows:

A) Don't speak unless REQUESTED, everyone is self aware to their choice, they know what they want & why they are doing so, let them ask.

B) Don't share your personal details, choices, opinions, ideas, beliefs, unless you are sure that the love of that person will not change for you.

C) Don't do anything for anyone unless they beg for it, at least not until it becomes unavoidable for you to act upon it.

D) Don't engage & interact emotionally with anyone, that is without understanding their objectives, motives & intentions towards you.

E) Don't lend or borrow money, for or from a friend, relative or a colleague.

F) Don't believe what someone is saying about yet another person, even if presented with evidence, judge & rule about someone's character or personality only by what you have experienced with them. Most of the time shimmering campaigns are the only resorts for losers.

G) Don't strive to be in the lime-light, or to be celebrated all the time, make sincere efforts to do your best, let the rest follow as it does.

H) Don't insist upon anything, let things & people be, let it stay or go, let the realization take its own course.

I) Don't live around perfection, nature itself is very unpredictable yet promising & blissful, be in here & now.

J) Don't trust anyone with everything, always be mindful of their nature & have an understanding on what they can do & cannot do.

K) Don't react to anything, as & when challenged to react take a pause, take a break to rethink & realigned your emotions.

L) Don't expect your kind of thinking, reasoning & behavior from anyone else, as much as you are unique, they too are special.

M) Don't get surprised or shocked, if you are lied upon, manipulated or used, they did their best, get up & get back on the track.

N) Don't dwell in the past or lured in the future, it will take you away from being practical & reasonable with opportunities in the present.

O) Don't ever complain about what is not going as per your wish & expectations, do self evaluation & change your own perceptions.

P) Don't ever compare yourself with others, the skills, knowledge, experience, efforts & dedication matters, improve them all & get ahead.

Q) Don't discuss or share your political or religious beliefs with anyone, there is a probability of you getting ridiculed in one or another way.

R) Don't share or discuss your finances, medical conditions or relationship matters with anyone other than the person involved.

S) Don't boast about your success, or that for either of your family members.

T) Don't have attachment to anyone or anything that may lead to your stress, set it free & let it flourish & gravitate naturally.

U) Don't participate in discussions about people that are not present there at that point in time during the discussion, good or bad nothing.

V) Don't anticipate or plan for too many critical things at the same point in time when there are too many variable factors involved.

W) Don't expect too much from yourself, one task performed & perfected at a time is much better than juggling 10 tasks together without any predictable end results.

X) Don't over commit yourself for others, don't be an enabler in anyone's life, don't sacrifice your peace or fortune to get anyone's attention.

Y) Don't gamble with whatever you have earned, value or people treasure them & remain invested in them.

Z) Don't day dream or procrastinate about making efforts in getting better with your set of skills & well being.

Hereafter one can now review the behaviors, reasoning of people around & arrive to an DO's & Don'ts with them as well, while these basic Do's & Don'ts can pave a way towards becoming one in harmony with the environment.